What If Your Real Self is Really Mad? (Plus a Giveaway!)

You’ve heard the platitudes … 

Honesty is the best policy.

Tell the truth and shame the devil.

An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips.

They make it sound simple, don’t they? As if telling the truth was so straightforward. But for those of us who are accustomed to covering up, getting real is … complicated.

When you start speaking up after years of silence, you’ll discover the land mines in your psyche. You probably won’t even know they’re there until you step on one. The anger and sadness that you stuffed down years ago will rise to the surface. And if you’re anything like me, you’ll hate it.

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How To Set Limits Like Liz Gilbert

Dear Liz,

When someone changes your life, it seems right to say thank you, doesn’t it?

I hope so. But right or wrong, I’m a writer, and you of all people know what that means. It means that I can’t help telling the stories that want to be told.

So here’s what happened when a group of friends and I showed up for your Big Magic event in Nashville.

Not that this will narrow it down, but we were the group that was so excited to see you, clapping and whooping as you took the stage with Ann Patchett.

Big Magic

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10 Dead Giveaway Signs You’re People-Pleasing

Truth: I’ve had a draft of this post saved on my computer for months now. Why? Because it’s something that I scribbled down for fun one day.

Since it’s a playful list post, a judgmental voice told me that I shouldn’t publish it. It wasn’t ‘serious writing’, so it wasn’t good enough. But then, light-bulb moment: maybe you don’t need ‘serious writing’ from me all the time.

As Glennon wrote on Momastery,

“I convinced myself that everything I wrote needed to be shiny and shareable and big and amazing. So I started writing essays instead of love letters. Meh. That’s not what we need all the time is it?”

If you’re anything like me, sometimes you don’t need a big, amazing essay. Sometimes you just need to know that another person understands your particular brand of crazy.

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